The Honest Liars Podcast #85

Honest Liars Podcast

Recently I had a fantastic opportunity to be interviewed by the boys at The Honest Liars regarding a wide range of subjects concerning relationships, living consciously, feminism, living virtuously and fatherhood. Most importantly I was able to spend quality time with individuals dedicated to living and improving their lives with incredibly conscious efforts.  They’re doing some really great work and are well worth the read and listen.  I could try to paraphrase what they do, but I think they do a fine job explaining it themselves: 

We believe that most people are perfectly capable of having fulfilling, honest, and open relationships. The problem is that so few of us have ever had true honest modeled for us, making it difficult to find authentic connections later in life. 

In order to attain these relationships, you MUST work to become the most authentic version of you, which means getting vulnerable not only with others, but also (and more importantly) with yourself.

Don’t know where to start? You’re not alone. People all over the world are starting this journey, just like you. They are waking up to the fact that their relationships are lacking, that something’s just not quite right with their world…


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The Honest Liars Podcast #85 Socrates Interview


“A Personal Map to the Sexual Market Place”

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A Personal Map to the Sexual Market PlaceKeynote Address 21C Tampa

“In the absence of strenuous change, people stay the same…”

“A friend of mine once commented that ‘average’ should be treated as a terminal disease… That as soon as you begin to exceed average in your thinking, approach, decisions, the people you surround yourself with, you will immediately start influencing the quality of your life.  That has been incredibly true for me and my personal experiences with the 21 Convention.”

Those were my the opening lines to my last blog post some three months ago… at that time I started to do preliminary research and composition for the three talks that I would be giving at the 21C Tampa event.  I quickly became consumed, by the ramifications of the ‘exceeding average’ as I transformed a spare room into a working 21C presentation studio and set about working.  Since then I’ve barely had a chance to turn around!  (sometimes the best advice is your own advice).

Never before had I had the opportunity to place in story-board outline my thoughts and ideas across such a large canvass. Daily I would go and immerse myself within that space and swim in the concepts that were sweeping though that room.  I could work and respond to ideas big and small and then pin them into place against a much larger and emerging context.  That context grew and grew, as concepts and ideas that I had recorded elsewhere began to emerge in layers and be place upon those walls.  (these photos are taken early in that process)

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It became apparent all too quickly that what I wanted and needed to say could not be covered adequately within the timeframe of my 21C Keynote speech. Furthermore I have been prompted by others over the years to do more than what I have already done and release a series of books based on many of the discussions we have had in person.  I haven’t for a number of reasons, but I have since been convinced otherwise.  As such, I’m announcing that I will be publishing a book “A Personal Map to the Sexual Market Place”  early in 2015 and the 21C Tampa Keynote speech is the working story-board to that greater project undertaking.  In a very real way, the 21C event itself will be not only a working presentation of the ideas I’ve been working with, but also an incubator for the feedback, observances and shared experiences that the 21C has always generated in completing the book.

The 21C has always served this function for me. One has directly led to another, growing and resonating further into something new then cycling again.  I have grown enormously alongside the 21C.  In my opening address I will be covering some of those experiences with the audience, but the Keynote address is reserved for the movement in which I have been a champion for some time.  Previously I’ve discussed and spoken about the Sexual Market Place (SMP) in general terms and conditions.  The problem with that is that ultimately all movements will have to be personal if they are to be successful.  With that in mind I’ve tailored a presentation of the SMP in a way the viewer/reader can directly place themselves, locate their objectives and chart the most appropriate path for them to take.  It will also identifying many of the challenges and obstacles one can expect to encounter while taking that course of action.  The most important is that it is ultimately YOUR map to YOUR objectives.

As a teaser I’m releasing two of the slides from the presentation below;

The first is addressing what a large number of women falsely place their focus and reliance upon; that of leveraging beauty and sexual attraction.  It is a treacherous trap that ultimately rewards them with misery, dependency and ever-growing failure.  Ultimately I hope to highlight and show the value of virtue, as a critical component within the SMP.

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The second explores a test case of the Pick Up Artist Community, what they teach, what they promise and what the ramifications of embracing those concepts are. Furthermore I will present graphically a narrative history and PUA approach to the SMP, but also what the underbelly of the community has led to.  Lastly I will present an alternative that is both proven effective and pro-social.

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These two excerpts are but a small portion (two subjects) of over two dozen areas of interest that I will be presenting in the talk and ultimately in vastly more detail in the book.

With approximately 30-days to the 21C event in Tampa, I am growing ever more physically nervous with excitement. I feel like a prized-race horse chomping at the bit with excitement and anticipation of the race.  For my part, I can honestly say that I wish I had access to the information that I will be presenting 20-years ago.  It would have made so many things so clear and actionable, that it’s easy to get depressed at thinking of my obvious errors I’ve made, as a consequence at not having access to it.

For those of you who already have purchased your tickets, please contact me via email prior to the event and I’ll sit down with you personally to review the concepts presented in my presentation and work with you to map out your objectives and route within the Sexual Market Place, one on one. No charge, just as a thank you for reading this blog and being a critical component to the 21C and an instrument in re-shaping the SMP.  In addition, I would also like to invite each of you to join me for dinner, in addition to the Hero Dinner.  I want to meet and talk with each of you and exchange our mutual experiences at length.  I know previously those were some of my fondest memories and were the initiator for the blogs creation.

For those of you who haven’t purchased tickets or are still considering going, (if they are still available) I will honor the above offer as well; a one-on-one tailored consultation of your Personal Road Map to the Sexual Market Place and an invitation to join me for dinner the night of the presentation.

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I truly am looking forward to all of this!

See you in Tampa!