…fail yourself,
…fail your wife,
…fail your children,
…your family,
…fail your life.
These moments are not possible without extremely strong, vulnerable and trusting relationships and the structures we create to support them.
What are you doing about yours today?
Here’s another plug for a book I just finished and currently re-reading this time much slower and with deliberate reflective insight. Looking for a place to start? Start with yourself and let this be your guide.
Getting caught up on reading of an early release of ‘Father’s Day’… an incredibly quick, yet poignant read regarding what is capable when a man is fully invested in his life, love and family… You don’t have to be married to find a wealth of well grounded advice regarding life and relationships within this short tome. In fact, you don’t have to be a Father, let alone male to find it equally informative, stimulating of thought and corrective actions to lean into… I’m reminded of Frederick Douglass’s quote “It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men.” Nowhere is this better articulated than in the cycle of child into man, man into husband, husband into father, all encompassed in the state of marriage. If children truly are our future, our marriages are the bedrock from which they will spring…
A Sunday afternoon spent in the Church of Splendor…
Sat down late this morning to wrap up my next blog post on ‘maintaining relationship quality’, which I’ve started and stopped a half-dozen times in the last three months… started to listen to this podcast from two mutual friends, to hear their voices again and immerse myself in the context of writing about ideas… and got lost hearing and being reaffirmed by shared values expressed in the podcast. Greg calls this church (the behavioral action of repeatedly going back again and again to remind yourself of what your values and virtues are and the acts of pursuing them). The more I think upon that and so many other ideas and convictions he shares the more I have to re-think so many ideas and ideals I once held so profoundly close. At times I’m uncomfortable with where I come up out of the rabbit hole, but I then remind myself that there is no growth in the comfort zone…
The Sexual Life Podcast-with Greg Swann
With all that being said, if I fail to post this evening it’s because I’ve chosen to spend more time with my friends, their ideas and contemplating those values as they are expressed in my life… and right now that is the most likely outcome…
Steve Mayeda- The Sexual Life
http://thesexuallife.com/the-philosophy-2/
Greg Swann
Manning Up Smart 