I just finished spending +4 ½ hours with a dear friend, who for several years has provided me guidance, leadership and inspiration and even though it wasn’t face-to-face, over the phone, or through social media, the interaction was on-demand and at a pace I could absorb and be prepared to take in what I hope was its entirety; that is, it was over the net and through his writing and video posts. The importance of that is I was able to take it all in on my schedule, when I was prepared and at a pace (going back over details a few times) that it afforded me to really hear, not only an underlying message to me (and others), but to see and feel the purpose to which he has been aiming for some time; bettering humanity, one life at a time.

In that regard I can tell you first hand he’s been successful at this, but not as much as his Driven personality would care to rest on his laurels on. I know I became a better man, the moment I turned toward fatherhood and fully embraced becoming one.  So too were those around me, because of that transformation.  That transformation would not have been possible without his friendship, kindness and ruthless Dutch Uncle guidance… Without his presence in my life I would not be able to stare into my own child’s eyes and see the reflection of the man that I am. 

Because of that and so much more, I’m fully supporting his current endeavor to provide much the same and greater to others, not only in support, voice, but financially as well. I’m not only recommending you do the same, but I’m offering you an introduction to the man and ideas who have so profound improved the quality of my life and ensured my future.


If you are interested in becoming a far better version of yourself, learning to thrive and finding sheer joy in life, this ‘Gym Membership’ will bring rewards not only to yourself and those most important to you, but also to humanity on a whole. I consider it virtue strengthening.  To have a membership, community and trainer that will educate, guide and provide exercises in development, is without a doubt the best ‘Gym Membership’ I will ever possess.  Even by owning one, that does nothing but reside in your pocket, you are helping to shape and change the world for a better place, one of human thriving.

For more insights into the man, his ideas and examples of ThriversED concepts, visit;


The Burning Edge of Humanity



“Fundamentally I’m dying”


Recently I received word that a college who is facing terminal cancer, that his cancer has taken a drastic turn which will bring to a close his life.  Its something he’s been aware of for some time and living with in the shadow of it. 


“Fundamentally I’m dying”…  


He states these words in the following presentation, not for sympathy, but to underline the urgency and commitment to his beliefs and conveyed in the actions of his values… 


“Watch what people do”…


He states this too, and is something that I’ve utilized a great many times, but in this case I find terribly telling when you watch a presentation from a man who knows he’s actually in the process of dying, take his precious time to pass the fruits of his life onto others…   


Within this presentation TPM reveals a bit of himself;


  • His Life

  • His journey of self improvement

  • And we are able to watch his values in action during death


 You can tell a lot about a man by watching each of these.




Way back when…  prior to the mainstreaming and relatively open availability regarding the discourse of men’s issues and interests available on the emerging internet,  much of what existed was subrosa, done discretely and in confidentiality to a public context due to fear of shaming, ridicule and intimidation.  A relatively new concept was one of blogging, sharing and dissemination of personal thoughts and ideas in an open public forum.  At that time, much like reading a book, there was little direct connection to an author or blogger.  There was little to no expectations that you would ever meet or even more unlikely meet in common with others who share similar interest and perspectives to further the common discussion and conversation. 


The Private man transcended much of that for me.  He was one of those early voices and uniquely as an individual vastly closer in age, profession and life experiences that the much younger vanguard of the blogging community as it existed then.   It was a young buck’s game.  Because of that he stood out for me in a number of ways and for me was vastly more relevant.  It wasn’t always an individual post that interested me or captured my attention, it was the perspective and the fact that he was there.  He existed, and his views like mine told me I wasn’t alone in seeing the world the way that I was.


I had the pleasure of meeting the man on a few occasions and relished them.  In many ways he’s exactly what you see, but so much more in so many ways. 


In a presentation that I gave at the 21Convention Orlando 2016 I had the following to say (outline format);


  • You are a Heroic Being  by your very existence…

    • The fact that you are alive is all the proof you need.

  • Incredible odds (odds of existence)

    • Of all the eggs and sperm produced by your parents, only two were successful in your creation; you won the most important race of life, one of existence. 

  • You Only Live Once

    • You are living a hierarchy of values right now.  To which sort of life are they guiding you? 

    • You will have to make peace with your life, not just in death, but at each passing day, with each milestone and benchmark of your life.

      • Live deliberately; live your values to the best of your abilities.

      • Serve your values where they matter.

  • Living end of the ash heap of human genetic history

    • Society is more than just a relationship between the living…

    • There is a relationship between the living and the dead.

      • A past that has given us life and a future.

    • There is a relationship between the living and the unborn.

      • A present that has the potential to give rise to the future.

        • (TPM video is part of that legacy)


Upon reflection of this presentation TPM stands as a strong exemplar of each of these. 


I’m terribly grateful for that which he has provided to me by example and as such, I’ll be in attendance at his ‘Going Away Party’, to celebrate his life, legacy and to sincerely say ‘Thank You’. 




March 4, 2017 @ 6:30PM (through at least 8:30PM)
The Living Room Pub
1709 North Congress Ave
Boynton Beach Florida 33426


U21C Orlando 2016

U21C 2016 Orlando

June 25th-26th: Orlando, Florida


“If I could turn back time…”

 If you could turn back time and sit with your younger unknowing self, what would you say? What conversation would you hold?  What concepts that you fully grasp now, could you convey the importance of, to a younger self that would serve as the foundation of you could live for the next 20+ years?  That is the general premises of this year’s Under 21 Convention in Orlando.  Multiple speakers giving the same general presentation, covering their perspective expertise; dating, relationships, fitness, health, philosophy etc… 

 The reality of this concept isn’t what if I could turn back time and spend an hour learning what are the foundational elements I need to know being 21 or younger, but spending two (2) whole days immersed in those subjects, with similar people dedicated to the same values of self improvement and development.

 While the focus is ‘Under 21’, there is no doubt that these are the foundational elements that you will carry with you for life. Anyone looking to shore up their personal foundations of personal development will find value in every presenter and presentation.  I know because I speak from experience; my personal development has exploded alongside the same explosive growth as the 21C & 21University.  For my part I’ve tried to give back as much as I’ve taken with me from those experiences.  Personally I know I have been greatly enriched by this process.     

Because of this, and because I firmly believe that some of the greatest value of attending any of the 21Convention events is the personal interactions with the speakers and camaraderie that occurs with the attendees, I will be hosting a social event at my house (The Big White Box) to further promote those opportunities. This will be free of charge and will be open to all attendees and presenters.

 I truly am looking forward to all of this!

 Looking forward to seeing you in Orlando!

The Honest Liars Podcast #85

Honest Liars Podcast

Recently I had a fantastic opportunity to be interviewed by the boys at The Honest Liars regarding a wide range of subjects concerning relationships, living consciously, feminism, living virtuously and fatherhood. Most importantly I was able to spend quality time with individuals dedicated to living and improving their lives with incredibly conscious efforts.  They’re doing some really great work and are well worth the read and listen.  I could try to paraphrase what they do, but I think they do a fine job explaining it themselves: 

We believe that most people are perfectly capable of having fulfilling, honest, and open relationships. The problem is that so few of us have ever had true honest modeled for us, making it difficult to find authentic connections later in life. 

In order to attain these relationships, you MUST work to become the most authentic version of you, which means getting vulnerable not only with others, but also (and more importantly) with yourself.

Don’t know where to start? You’re not alone. People all over the world are starting this journey, just like you. They are waking up to the fact that their relationships are lacking, that something’s just not quite right with their world…


The Honest Liars

The Honest Liars Podcast #85 Socrates Interview


A Personal Map to the Sexual Marketplace- Full Video

A Personal Map to the Sexual Marketplace

Almost a year and a half ago I started on a journey that was to profoundly change my life and while I suspect that it would impact it, I had no idea of the journey that it would personally put me on. That journey isn’t over and to be honest has only just begun… more on that much later…

The importance of all this is the event I’m talking about is my acceptance to be the keynote speaker at the Tampa 2014 21 Convention. I knew that this was going to be an ordeal. The speakers are awesome, the subjects varied, as they are intriguing and pertinent.

I decided to take what I knew, what I believed, what I’ve come to know, roll all that up with this blog and produce a presentation that each and every attendee could personally utilize to understand the sexual marketplace, their position within it, identify where their own goals and objectives lay and how to chart an appropriate course to achieve those goals and objectives. That and it had to be easy to use and they could take it with them…

This is that presentation.